Customs and Traditions of an Irish Wake

Certain customs and traditions surround death in Ireland. Here you can read about Irish Wakes.

The Irish Wake

The Irish Wake is perhaps one of the best-known funeral traditions associated with Ireland. The Wake, the glorious send-off of departed loved ones, is a prominent feature of Irish funeral traditions, but is seen less and less often in modern Ireland and is now almost unknown in the cities. In many country areas, however, the practice of watching over the recently deceased from the time of death to burial is still followed and remains an important part of the grieving process.

Origins of the Wake

The origin of the wake may date back to the ancient Jewish custom of leaving the sepulchre of a recently departed relative unsealed for three days, during which time family members would visit in the hope of seeing signs of life.

A more recent, though likely mythical, explanation is that the tradition arose due to lead poisoning from pewter tankards used to drink stout. This could cause a catatonic state resembling death, from which the sufferer might recover after a few hours or days.

Purpose and Meaning

Regardless of its origins, the wake offers comfort to those grieving, providing a chance to say goodbye, celebrate the life of the deceased, and mark their final departure from home. It is a scene of both sadness and joy, where memories are shared and the life lived is honoured.

Where Is a Wake Held?

A wake is usually held in the deceased’s home or the home of a close relative. In cities, it is increasingly common for a ‘viewing’ to take place at a funeral home. The death notice will typically say “reposing at…” followed by the address.

During a wake, the location is often evident by the number of cars outside and people gathered at the door.

Who Attends a Wake?

Anyone who knew the deceased or their family may attend a wake—no invitation is needed. Attendees typically include family, neighbours, friends, colleagues, and acquaintances. If the notice says “house private,” the wake is limited to immediate family and invited guests.

Children usually do not attend unless they are close relatives.

Men often visit late at night and sit with the body, allowing the family to rest.

Atmosphere and Dress Code

The atmosphere is respectful, with both laughter and tears as stories are shared. Dress conservatively and avoid bright colours.

What to Do When You Enter the Wake House

You’ll be greeted by a family member or someone close to the family who will guide you to the body. Shake hands and offer condolences.

Expect to see people drinking tea, eating sandwiches and chatting—even in the room where the body is laid out. The body is typically in a coffin, with close family nearby. Shake hands, offer condolences, and take a moment to view the body. You may say a prayer, touch the hands or head, or sprinkle holy water.

After meeting the family, it’s customary to sit and chat. You’ll likely be offered tea. Alcohol is less common today.

Stay for 10 minutes to several hours, depending on your relationship with the family. Close neighbours often help with kitchen duties or other tasks.

What to Bring to a Wake

Nothing is required, but many bring a condolence card to place near the coffin. If you know the family well, bringing sandwiches, cakes, or biscuits is appreciated. Neighbours may also lend chairs, crockery, or teapots.

When to Attend a Wake

If you’re not a close relative or friend, the usual time to attend is between 5pm and 8pm. Wakes may continue through the night, with close friends and neighbours sitting with the body. If you’re there near the time of removal, leave early to give the family time for final goodbyes.

Sign the Guest Book if present.

What You’ll See at a Wake or Viewing

The body is usually visible in an open coffin, dressed in best clothes and covered with a shroud from the chest down. If disfigured, the coffin will be closed.

Curtains are typically drawn, with one window left open in the room. Mirrors may be covered or turned to the wall.

A Tradition of Remembrance

The Irish Wake represents a deeply rooted cultural tradition, blending respect, reverence, and remembrance with communal support. Though less common in urban settings, it remains a meaningful farewell, celebrating life and fostering healing. By preserving such customs, Ireland honours its heritage and the enduring power of collective grieving.