7 Thoughtful Things to Do With Ashes

Deciding what to do with a loved one’s ashes is deeply personal, and there’s no need to rush. Some families make a decision straight away, while others wait for an anniversary, a moment of clarity, or simply the headspace to reflect. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach, but here are seven meaningful ideas to consider.

1. Keep Them Close at Home

Many families choose to keep ashes in an urn somewhere personal—on the mantelpiece, a shelf, a windowsill, or tucked away quietly. Today’s urns can be beautifully discreet or a striking interior feature, with designs in wood, glass, ceramic, or stone. It’s not morbid; it’s often deeply comforting.

2. Scatter Them Somewhere Meaningful

From a favourite beach to the back garden, scattering ashes in a place your loved one cherished can be incredibly moving. It also creates a space you can revisit, knowing they are there. Just consider the practicalities: check permissions and decide whether you want to do it privately or with others.

3. Share Them With Family

Ashes can be shared between households, especially in blended or close-knit families. Keepsake urns or memorial jewellery allow multiple people to feel connected and included in the remembrance.

4. Plant Them With a Tree or in a Garden

Nature lovers might appreciate a living tribute. Biodegradable urns are available, or you can scatter ashes beneath a new tree or a favourite rose bush. It becomes a legacy you can visit for years to come.

5. Create a Memorial Keepsake

Ashes can be transformed into jewellery, glass art, vinyl records, or even paintings. Some keepsakes are beautiful and symbolic; others are more trend-led. Choose what feels meaningful to you—not just what’s fashionable.

6. Place Them in a Columbarium or Grave

Cemeteries often offer wall niches or smaller plots for ashes. Some families choose to add ashes to an existing grave. These options create a defined place to visit and reflect, which can be especially comforting for those who value tradition.

7. Wait Until the Time Feels Right

Many people keep ashes for months or even years—until a birthday, anniversary, or simply when it feels right. Grief has no expiry date. Take your time.

Zoë’s Note

Whatever you choose, make sure it feels right for you and your family. If you’re unsure, I’m always here to help talk it through.